These four words mean something different to everyone. Being able to say them is a luxury in and of itself. See what Mollie Chen, Birchbox co-founder, and mom to Lilly and Finn has to say to her mom.
Hi Mom, it’s me, Mollie. I’ve been thinking about you a lot especially as we’re spending so much time with the kids. Being a parent is so wild. How can something so normal be so all-encompassing at the same time?
Anyway, as Lilly gets older and has been chattering away, I’m increasingly aware of what an incredible responsibility it is to help a self-described “I am a little bit big, but still small” person grow up strong and confident. I’ve been coming back to how you set the tone for me early on—by working, and loving your work. It wasn’t until I was in my 30’s and leading a team that it really dawned on me that a lot of my confidence that I could—and—should be successful in the workplace came from watching you. (Also, thanks Dad for picking us up from school and cooking dinner every night! That set a great example, too.)
Especially now, when we’re acutely aware of the tension between parenting and working, I’m thinking about what I want to model for Lilly and Finn. Being their mom is the most important thing to me, full stop, but I know I can be a better me and a better parent when I have space to work, be productive, and give value to the world. I learned about that from you, and I’m so grateful for it. I also learned to be silly but that’s for another phone call.
Also: I miss you. I can’t wait to hug you again.