These four words mean something different to everyone. Being able to say them is a luxury in and of itself. See what Nikki Reed, actress, writer, founder of @bayouwithlove, and mom to Bodhi has to say to her mom.
Motherhood to me means learning to love even deeper. Learning to find a space within yourself to give and receive in ways I could only imagine before becoming a mom. As we approach more and more time in isolation through social distancing, we have a challenging yet amazing opportunity to see our children, and have our children see us entirely.
I am trying not to overthink and over-plan, and remember that time and simply being present is just as valuable in the school of life as education and art projects. Some days I put together art projects and puzzles, other days we bake and sprinkle flower seeds in the garden, and sometimes we sit and do nothing. She plays with her toys and I sit on the couch, staring up at the ceiling exhausted. There is space for all of it.
And most days, I find myself thinking about how incredible my mother is for raising two children, on her own, with endless love and patience. How she worked, mothered, put food on the table, and gave so much of herself for her two kids, every day all day. There is no such thing as doing it “right”. If I learned anything from her, it is that love is the greatest gift you can give to a child, and everything else is a bonus. So Mamas, don’t stress about getting all the chores done, creating the perfect at-home classroom, making every meal, and still finding time for bedtime books, art class, flashcards, and more. An unplanned day is still a great day if there are hugs and laughter sprinkled throughout. Oh, and make sure to leave a little “you” time in there too.